In short male travellers should do what Mexican guys do when they want to date foreign women. They arrive with devastating eye contact and a sultry, breathless look; they place one hand on her cheek and say something like: “I have never seen anyone as beautiful as you in my entire life!”

Mexican guys often don’t quite know what to make of independent Western women and can only fall back on their ingrained machismo. That’s cool if you’re an old-fashioned kind of gal but might be a little tedious otherwise.